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So you’ve done the “no contact” thing after your breakup, and now you’re wondering if and how you should get back in touch with your ex. When it comes to “if,” texting them may be a good idea if you have realistic and clear goals in mind. As for the “how,” check out the complete list below for all kinds of great ideas! Pick out a few that suit you and use them as inspiration for your first text after no contact.
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QuestionIs it OK to text your ex after they break up with you?Hardy JeanHardy "Coach DT" Jean is a Dating Coach and the Head Coach & Co-Founder of Way Tooo Spicy LLP, a relationship and dating coaching service based in Boston, Massachusetts. Hardy's specialties include trauma healing, self-love practices, and modern dating tactics in an increasingly virtual world. He works with his clients to upgrade their dating experiences through healing trauma, implementing uniquely personalized dating gameplans, and empowering clients to attract partners that they deserve. He has a BA in Legal Studies from the University of Massachusetts Amherst and is currently pursuing his Juris Doctor at Northeastern School of Law.
Dating CoachIt can be, as long as your goal is to either get closure or set up a conversation evaluating what's left of your relationship. Just remember—they're your ex for a reason. No matter how true your feelings may have been at some point and no matter how frequently you have thoughts on things you could've done differently, it never serves you in terms of your healing journey to go back to your ex. They'll always see you as the version of yourself when they decided that you weren't good enough for the relationship to continue.
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If you plan on doing it only one time, it should be to either get closure or to set up an interaction where you can have that conversation to really just hash out what you have left.[11]Thanks
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It’s true that texting an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend to win them back is a challenge—but it’s definitely possible!Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/202109/7-reasons-exes-get-back-together
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-happiness-project/201009/make-friend-ask-someone-favor
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201308/read-you-apologize-her-or-him
- ↑ Hardy Jean. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 10 June 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202306/5-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-going-back-to-your-ex
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/202109/7-reasons-exes-get-back-together
- ↑ Hardy Jean. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 10 June 2022.
- ↑ Hardy Jean. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 10 June 2022.
- ↑ Hardy Jean. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 10 June 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201610/you-think-you-want-your-ex-back
- ↑ Hardy Jean. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 10 June 2022.