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Trying to win someone’s heart is never easy, but it becomes even more complicated when that person is stubborn. Fortunately, with a little time and patience, you can hopefully win over your potential lover’s heart and get him to see you for who you really are. Keep reading to learn how you can deal with a stubborn man and help him break down his walls to open up to you.

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Let him come to you.

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  1. If you seem too eager about hanging out with him, it could be a turn off. You don’t have to cancel plans, but don’t rearrange your life for him. If he hits you up and you’re busy, reschedule for a different day.[1]
    • Make sure you’re not the only one initiating dates, too. Try to keep it about 50/50 to make sure he’s actually interested.
    • If he never approaches you to hang out at all, it could mean he’s just not interested. If you find that you’re constantly the one to initiate dates or hangout times, it might be time to move on.
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Be his friend.

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  1. If he’s not ready to call you his significant other yet, focus on being a really good friend. Eventually, you may just win him over enough to secure a romantic relationship with him.[3]
    • Think about what you’d want from a good friend: a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, or someone to just have fun with.
    • Plus, showing him how caring you can be is a great way to show off your most empathetic and thoughtful qualities.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 220 wikiHow readers and 46% of them agreed that the characteristic they value most in a potential partner is an empathetic and caring nature. [Take Poll]
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Stay flirty.

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Focus on your common interests.

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  1. Maybe you both read a lot, so you can spend time at a bookstore or the library. Or, maybe you two both like to surf, so you head out to the beach every Saturday. Try to do things that you both like together so he can see how compatible you are.[6]
    • It’s always good to try new things, too! If he’s interested in something you’ve never done before, give it a go. He’ll see you’re open to new interests (and how fun you are).[7]
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    How do you deal with a stubborn man?
    Shana Tibi
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    Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications.
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    Try to figure out why he's stubborn. Do you understand his position? Do you understand his interest? Do you understand why he's feeling that way and having that experience? In answering those questions, you have to decide if his stubborn feelings and opinions are deal breakers for you.
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    What is negotiable in a relationship?
    Shana Tibi
    Shana Tibi
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    Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications.
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    That really depends on you and your partner's priorities and boundaries. For instance, a woman might be willing to negotiate moving to another country with her husband if he agrees to quit smoking.
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This article was co-authored by Shana Tibi and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications. This article has been viewed 39,634 times.
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