How to Drop Hints That You Are a Lesbian

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Last Updated: April 5, 2024

People can prepare for the news if you give them hints before you come out. It can also give you a solid indication of how they'll react. They'll have figured it out already and won't be too upset. This is also good if you don't want people to know you're lesbian but just want them to think you are. Here's how to drop hints that you're lesbian.

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You could go for the classic "I love Ellen DeGeneres" or Kate McKinnon. You can also mention LGBTQ musicians like girl in red or Hayley Kiyoko for a different approach.
You can wear LGBTQ or pride items--such as t-shirts, bracelets, or accessories--to drop hints that you're lesbian. This will surely raise (positive) questions about your sexuality.^{[1]
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Although it's subtle, thumb rings are worn by lesbian and queer people to signify their sexual orientation and relationship status. People might ask questions about your ring or compliment it (this is your chance to tell them you're LGBTQ).
You check your phone frequently, and when you take it out, other people are likely to notice your wallpaper.
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Discuss the people or girls who appeal to you. If you want to let others know how you feel about your sexual identity without outright proclaiming it, you may surely work some discreet hints into conversation. Maybe you want your best friend to know you're a lesbian. "Did you see that girl in Biology class sitting next to me?" "Wow, I could get lost in those stunning eyes!"
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Don't be too bold when you try these hints. Just act like these things are normal for you, not like you're actually trying to drop hints to them--unless you specifically want someone to know.

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