How long should I wait before the next date?
I went on a date with this really awesome girl and I’m super into her. Things went really well and the vibes were immaculate. We even kissed before calling it a night and made references to setting up a second date. It’s been 24 hours since our date and I’d like to reach out about setting the next one up, but I don’t want to come off as desperate or creepy or needy. What’s an appropriate time to wait between dates before you reach out? I really want this to go well.
If the vibes were truly immaculate, I think you’re good to reach out now—especially if 24 hours have passed since the date. When the spark is there like that, nobody is going to overthink it when it comes to the details about when someone reached out or not. Just think about it in reverse. If she reached out to set up the next date say, 12 hours ago, would you have thought, “Boy, she’s coming off as desperate and creepy.” No way, right? It’s the same thing here.
Now, if you aren’t positive the feelings were reciprocal, I think you should wait another 24-48 hours just to be safe. The odds she ends up in a committed, monogamous relationship in the 2-3 days after your first date are astronomically low, so you aren’t risking much by waiting a little bit. That also conveys the message that you’ve got stuff going on in your life, which is a good thing if you want to sweep someone off their feet. Good luck, bud!
Now, if you aren’t positive the feelings were reciprocal, I think you should wait another 24-48 hours just to be safe. The odds she ends up in a committed, monogamous relationship in the 2-3 days after your first date are astronomically low, so you aren’t risking much by waiting a little bit. That also conveys the message that you’ve got stuff going on in your life, which is a good thing if you want to sweep someone off their feet. Good luck, bud!
You probably won't find this answer super helpful but there aren't any hard and fast rules for when you should set up another date with someone. You just have to take into account your feelings for them and what your schedule allows. If you really like her, 24 hours is a perfectly reasonable amount of time to wait before reaching out to set the next date up. Honestly, you probably could've texted right after the end of your first date.
On my first date with my current boyfriend, I set up our next date while we were still on our date! I invited him to go see a show with me the next day, and he was excited to spend more time with me :) Don't get in your head too much and overthink it. The right person won't lose interest in you just because you didn't wait the right number of hours to ask them out again. Go for it! Good luck.
On my first date with my current boyfriend, I set up our next date while we were still on our date! I invited him to go see a show with me the next day, and he was excited to spend more time with me :) Don't get in your head too much and overthink it. The right person won't lose interest in you just because you didn't wait the right number of hours to ask them out again. Go for it! Good luck.
Hi! I agree with other people that there aren't rules for this kind of thing and you should set up that second date as soon as you want. I'll just share my experience with this. I liked going at a pace of about 1 or 2 dates every week when I was first dating the girl I'm currently with. It felt like a good balance of taking time to get to know each other without rushing into things. You could reach out right after your date to set up the next one and it doesn't feel like you're desperate or needy because you're scheduling for a few days out.
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