What are some fun/spicy questions to ask a girl?
I've gone out with this girl a few times and the next time we hang I want to come prepared with some fun and saucy get-to-know-you questions, just to heat things up a bit but still keep things fun/friendly/not cross the line too much. (Think "truth or dare" or "would you rather...") So, what are your favorite fun and spicy things to ask on a date?
View hidden comment
Expert Answers
Asking questions is a fun way to get to know someone. So is guessing through observations, either real or using your imagination. For instance, "I could guess your favorite sports team," or "I could guess your favorite Harry Potter character you identified with when you were a kid." It makes the other person feel like they're on the spot and like they're being seen. Another really fun thing to do is get them to imagine they're in their favorite city, or a place they've never been, and what would they do there?
View hidden comment
Upon meeting a new person, good questions to ask them include:
- Asking them about their life goals and values.
- Asking them about their upbringing with their family.
- Asking them about their most recent committed relationship.
- Asking them about their current career and plans to further it.
- Asking them how they feel about you (their first impression).
- Asking them about the first time they fell in love.
- Asking them why things didn’t work out with their first love.
- Asking them their favorite subject to learn in high school and/or college.
- Asking them about their last break up, and why it didn’t work out.
- Asking them about their favorite place to travel and why.
View hidden comment
- Asking them about their life goals and values.
- Asking them about their upbringing with their family.
- Asking them about their most recent committed relationship.
- Asking them about their current career and plans to further it.
- Asking them how they feel about you (their first impression).
- Asking them about the first time they fell in love.
- Asking them why things didn’t work out with their first love.
- Asking them their favorite subject to learn in high school and/or college.
- Asking them about their last break up, and why it didn’t work out.
- Asking them about their favorite place to travel and why.
Reader Answers
"Would You Rather..." or "Most Likely To..." are fun games to play with a date or with friends if you guys hang out in a group with other people. :) I play a lot with my friends.
Questions we've asked:
Would you rather be stranded on a desert island with your ex or your boss?
Would you rather commit a minor crime on a date or get matching tattoos?
Would you rather audition for Love Island or Love is Blind?
Would you rather accidentaly send a dirty text to your parents or your crush?
Who is most likely to play strip poker?
Who is most likely to try to embarrass you in front of your crush?
Who is most likely to be part of the mile high club?
Who is most likely to flirt with a cop to get out of trouble?
They're silly questions and not too "naughty" but they're good icebreakers and good for when you are bored!
View hidden comment
Questions we've asked:
Would you rather be stranded on a desert island with your ex or your boss?
Would you rather commit a minor crime on a date or get matching tattoos?
Would you rather audition for Love Island or Love is Blind?
Would you rather accidentaly send a dirty text to your parents or your crush?
Who is most likely to play strip poker?
Who is most likely to try to embarrass you in front of your crush?
Who is most likely to be part of the mile high club?
Who is most likely to flirt with a cop to get out of trouble?
They're silly questions and not too "naughty" but they're good icebreakers and good for when you are bored!
Spicy questions but still pretty tame:
“Did you stalk me on social media before we dated?”
"What nonsexual thing turns you on?"
"How do you feel about sexting?"
"What song puts you in the mood?"
"Who’s your celebrity hall pass?”
"Have you ever sent a dirty text to the wrong person?"
"Have you ever gone skinny dipping?"
Romantic questions:
"What’s your love language?"
"What's your definition of love?"
"When did you have your first kiss?"
"What are your green flags in a relationship?"
More playful/fun questions:
“Do you believe in conspiracy theories?”
"What's your guilty pleasure?"
"What's your favorite song to sing in the shower?”
“What gives you the ick?”
"Do you have any phobias?"
"Have you ever used a ouija board?"
“What’s the most pointless white lie you’ve ever told?”
View hidden comment
“Did you stalk me on social media before we dated?”
"What nonsexual thing turns you on?"
"How do you feel about sexting?"
"What song puts you in the mood?"
"Who’s your celebrity hall pass?”
"Have you ever sent a dirty text to the wrong person?"
"Have you ever gone skinny dipping?"
Romantic questions:
"What’s your love language?"
"What's your definition of love?"
"When did you have your first kiss?"
"What are your green flags in a relationship?"
More playful/fun questions:
“Do you believe in conspiracy theories?”
"What's your guilty pleasure?"
"What's your favorite song to sing in the shower?”
“What gives you the ick?”
"Do you have any phobias?"
"Have you ever used a ouija board?"
“What’s the most pointless white lie you’ve ever told?”
So I'm a girl, and if this happened to me, I would love truth or dare questions. Also, ask her what is her favorite book, or think of something that she would gladly tell you about, even if you don't want a 45-minute lecture on it.
View hidden comment
yeah i'd say how spicy your questions are depends how intimate you guys have been or if you feell ike things are heading in that direction, like "what's your fave place to be kissed," "what was your sexual awakening," "do you like to make the first move or do you like the other person to" are good ones to get flirtier/sexier but if you guys aren't really there yet you might want to keep the spicy questions to a minimum. i'd ask fun get to know you questions that make it clear i like her and like being together like "is cereal soup?" that'll make her laugh and if you get a woman laughing you've got a woman loving. the "i bet i can guess stuff about you" method is good too.
View hidden comment
I don't think you're meant to just ask a bunch of questions in a row, rather, I think you should ask one or two questions during the span of a date and use them as jumping-off points for deeper or more fun conversations. Asking rapidfire questions like that is offputting if anything (coming from the perspective of a girl), but sprinkling in a few well-timed questions can lead to more creative and intereresting conversation that fosters more intimacy.
View hidden comment
You could try fun ones like, “What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?” or spicy-but-playful ones like, “Would you rather accidentally send a flirty text to your boss or your parents?” Keep it light and make sure she’s comfortable—you’ll both have a great time!
View hidden comment
Questions that give the girl a chance to be vulnerable with you feel "spicy" because they help you connect, which can heighten the feeling of intimacy in your conversation. Questions that give the other person a chance to talk about how they feel about you also help contribute to the intimacy and feel a little "naughty" because we typically don't tell people what we think about them. Try questions like:
- What's something you've never told anyone before?
- Do you have a secret you'd be willing to share with me?
- What were your first impressions of me? How do they differ from what you think of me now?
- What do you find most attractive about me? (and then tell her what you find most attractive about her)
- Is there a question you're curious about, but a little afraid to ask?
View hidden comment
- What's something you've never told anyone before?
- Do you have a secret you'd be willing to share with me?
- What were your first impressions of me? How do they differ from what you think of me now?
- What do you find most attractive about me? (and then tell her what you find most attractive about her)
- Is there a question you're curious about, but a little afraid to ask?
My question is how do you ask these questions NATURALLY? Ive seen these types of lists on the internet before but aside from actual games like "Would You Rather" where the point is to ask rapid fire questions I never understood how to just ASK these types of questions without it feeling like I'm interroggating her
View hidden comment
I think any question can feel spicy if you say it the right way. Make your voice nice and low and speak at a slow, deliberate pace. But don't overdo it or it'll just sound silly. And then if the vibes are right, you can also incorporate touch when you ask your questions to make them spicier. Depending on how daring you're feeling or how interested she looks, you could brush hair out of her face, put your arm on her hand or arm, or just lean in really close to her. Eye contact is important to! Look at her like she's the most beautiful thing in the world.
Then ask whatever question you like to get to know her. Sure, some questions are "spicier" than others. One time a girl asked me "What color swimsuit do you think I'd look best in?" when I invited her to a pool date. That question forced me to imagine her in all kinds of swimsuits and colors so questions like that are great!
View hidden comment
Then ask whatever question you like to get to know her. Sure, some questions are "spicier" than others. One time a girl asked me "What color swimsuit do you think I'd look best in?" when I invited her to a pool date. That question forced me to imagine her in all kinds of swimsuits and colors so questions like that are great!
Here are some flirty and romantic questions! Some of them are a little spicier than others but I think they cover topics like spontaneity, love, and attraction that are spicy.
1. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? Would you do it again? With me?
2. Do you believe in love at first sight? Did you like me when you first saw me?
3. What’s something you find irresistibly attractive in a person? What do you find most attractive about me?
4. What’s the best compliment someone could give you? Or a compliment you received that has stuck with you?
5. What would you consider a major turn-on? (This can be a personality trait or physical trait.) What about me turns you on most?
6. If I were to take you on a surprise romantic getaway, what would your ideal destination be?
7. How do you feel about PDA (public displays of affection)? What's your favorite type?
8. What’s your idea of a "perfect kiss"? (if you play your cards right, you may be able to turn this question into a kiss)
9. If we were to share a late-night adventure together, where would we go and what would we do?
10. Do you think there’s such a thing as "love at first sight"? Have you experienced it?
View hidden comment
1. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? Would you do it again? With me?
2. Do you believe in love at first sight? Did you like me when you first saw me?
3. What’s something you find irresistibly attractive in a person? What do you find most attractive about me?
4. What’s the best compliment someone could give you? Or a compliment you received that has stuck with you?
5. What would you consider a major turn-on? (This can be a personality trait or physical trait.) What about me turns you on most?
6. If I were to take you on a surprise romantic getaway, what would your ideal destination be?
7. How do you feel about PDA (public displays of affection)? What's your favorite type?
8. What’s your idea of a "perfect kiss"? (if you play your cards right, you may be able to turn this question into a kiss)
9. If we were to share a late-night adventure together, where would we go and what would we do?
10. Do you think there’s such a thing as "love at first sight"? Have you experienced it?
What’s on your mind? Ask anything.
Get advice and feedback from experts and wikiHow readers just like you.
Ask a Question
More Forum Discussions
What do other wikiHow readers have to say?
Other wikiHow readers have submitted their own tips on topics similar to this one.
Reader Tips from 115 Questions to Ask a Girl
Summarize and repeat what they’ve said back to them, and ask thoughtful follow-up questions to show that you’re interested in learning more about them and deepening the conversation.
Practice active listening while the person you’re talking to answers your question. This shows that you’re engaged and that you care deeply about what they’re saying.
Reader Tips from 16 Awesome Topics to Talk About with a Girl
People tend to like to talk about themselves, so ask questions that get your date talking about herself instead of questions that center you or how she feels about you.
Try to be vulnerable with your questions but be genuine. Remember people can tell if you're not being your authentic self.
Reader Tips from Weird & Funny Questions to Ask a Girl
Keep in mind that any one of these great questions could blow the conversation wide open, so there's no need to ask a specific number of questions.
You don't need to ask a bunch of questions. One or two questions can lead to an hour or more of flowing conversation.
