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Asking someone out is nerve-wracking because it's hard to know whether or not they like you too. However, by noticing his body language and paying attention to what he says in conversation, you can easily tell if he likes you too. For instance, if he makes eye contact, teases you, or gently touches you, there's a good chance he is crushing on you too. Once you think he likes you, make your move!

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Deciphering His Body Language

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  1. If he likes you, he'll naturally smile around you all the time. He also may laugh or giggle at what you say to show he likes you.[1] If he doesn't laugh at your jokes, he might not like you.
    • If he breaks his facial expression to smile at you, this is often a sure-fire sign that he's crushing on you. For instance, his face may light up when you pass him in the hallway.
  2. If your crush likes you, he will make eye contact with you as often as he can. To test this out, look at him for 3-4 seconds and then look away. After a few seconds, take a peek to see if he’s still looking at you. If you catch him glancing your way, there’s a good chance he likes you.[2]
    • A shy guy may still like you even if he doesn't make eye contact often, so don't let this dissuade you.
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  3. To gauge how interested he is, touch him gently as a flirtatious suggestion. You can gently touch his shoulder, hand, or arm, for instance. If he stays in contact with you rather than flinching or moving, he's into it.[3]
    • Also notice if he finds excuses to touch you, like brushing your leg with his or finding a reason to give you a hug.
  4. When you are sitting down, standing in a group, or passing each other, pay attention to how he positions himself around you. If he points his legs, feet, or toes in your direction when you hang out, there’s a good chance he likes you. It’s common to position your body in the direction of the person you like.[4]
  5. If he likes you, he may fumble over his words, get sweaty palms, or take deep breaths. This often happens because he's worried about making a good impression and whether or not you like him too.[5]
    • Guys typically don’t act nervous around people they don’t like.
  6. When someone wants to connect with you, he may start walking at your pace naturally. For instance, if you are walking together, he may adjust his speed so you can walk together.[6]
    • Additionally, if he sees you from across the room or hallway, he may start to walk at your pace as you cross paths.
  7. If a guy sees someone they like, their blood often rushes to their face. As a result, he may touch or scratch his face someone he likes. In addition, he may raise his eyebrows slightly. If he does any of these motions, he is likely crushing on you too.[7]
    • These motions often happen quickly and soon after he sees you, so keep your eyes peeled.
    • Also watch to see if he quickly glances away when you notice that he’s looking at you.
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Having a crush is the best thing in the world—except when it’s the worst! All those lovey-dovey butterflies can quickly turn into nervousness. Suddenly, you're stuck analyzing their every move, wondering whether or not they like you back. Luckily, we’ve got the perfect quiz for you! Answer these questions, and you'll learn to identify the secret signs that your crush is into you, so you can stop worrying and start loving. Take this quiz to finally get your answer!
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Does your crush follow you on social media?

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Analyzing Your Conversations

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  1. If he says things like "You look great," or "Your dress is awesome," there's a good chance he likes you. He may compliment your appearance or personality. Pay attention to how often and what he compliments to get a sense of when to ask him out.
    • For example, if you are in the same class, he may say "Wow, you're so smart," after you tell him the grade of your last exam.
  2. If he often quotes things you've said in the past, he likely enjoys talking to you. Notice if he brings up a story you told before, a fun fact about you, or something about your family or friends. These are all signs that he is really listening.[8]
    • For example, he may ask you if you saw the latest sports game for your favorite team.
    • He may also ask questions to get to know you better. For instance, if you mention you have a brother, he may ask if you have other siblings.
  3. If he makes a comment about your new haircut, outfit, or makeup, this suggests he looks at you often and may like you too. Since he's noticed all of your features, he'll surely notice when you tweak something or make an upgrade.[9]
    • For instance, he may say "I really like your new shoes," or "Hey, since when do you wear purple lipstick?"
  4. Over time, he may seem interested in your favorite TV show, movie, or band. If he asks you what you think of the new Red Hot Chili Peppers' CD or if you watched the latest episode of The Office, he may be trying to connect with you.[10]
    • For instance, if you tell him that Doctor Who is your favorite show and a few weeks later he starts talking about an episode, he may have a crush on you.
  5. If he sends you a "what's up?" text multiple times a week, he likely wants to chat with you and connect deeper. He may like your social media posts, send you messages, or tag you in funny comments. If he calls you on the phone, chances are he's into you.
    • For example, he may send you a funny picture, interesting video, or neat article.
  6. Guys often flirt by teasing, such as calling you a nickname or giving you a hard time. If he does things make fun of a silly thing you said, he probably likes you.[11]
    • For example, he may mock your tone of voice, inflection, or accent. He also may point out little details, like a stain on your shirt or how you often bite your lip when nervous.
    • Notice if he flirts or teases with lots of other people. If so, this may not be a fool-proof sign.
  7. If he likes you, he’ll likely talk about himself when he can. He may brag about himself as a way to impress you or tell you personal stories to keep you interested. If he makes it a point to add personal information to the conversation or tell you his thoughts or opinions, there’s a good chance he’s interested.[12]
    • For example, if he regularly tells you about his upcoming football games, he may want you to show up and watch.
  8. If a guy likes you, he may tell his friends, and they may heckle him over his feelings. If you notice his friends smiling at him, winking at you, or giving him a hard time, he may have confessed his feelings about you.[13]
    • For instance, his friends might start making kissing sounds when they notice him talking to you in the hallway.
  9. When you’re in a group at school, an event, or at work, note his reaction when taking all together. If he says something and looks at you first, the aim of his story or joke was to get you to notice him. If this is the case, there’s a high probability he likes you.[14]
    • For example, perhaps you are chatting with a few friends at your locker in between class. After your crush tells everyone about his weekend plans, if he looks at you right away, he may want you to say something back.
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    How do you know if a guy likes you secretly?
    Joshua Pompey
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    Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert and Founder of Next Evolution Matchmaking (NEM) based in New York City, NY. With over 15 years in the industry, Joshua helps his clients navigate online dating and has a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world.
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    Number one, body language is key when somebody is looking at you. If they're smiling a lot and they're making eye contact, it's a good sign they like you. Also, look out for little touches on the arm, on the elbow, or on the back while you're talking. Those are tremendous signs of interest, so look out for any physical touches that you're receiving.
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    What if he is too scared to ask you out?
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    Try asking him out yourself! The worst that could happen is he could say no.
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    I asked my crush out for coffee with other friends, and he turned me down. However, the other day when we were talking, he pulled my arm back towards him. What does that mean?
    Karley Snyder
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    He may be interested but nervous or not ready. In addition, he may want individual time with you instead of time with other friends. Try being his friend for a bit to see if he gives you any other flirty suggestions. If so, ask him out for coffee--just you two.
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  • Don’t take it personally if he says no when you ask him out. He may have just gotten out of a relationship or be very shy. Keep being his friend and maybe he’ll change his mind down the line.[15]
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