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Respect for your partner is important whether you're in a long-term relationship or just started dating. A baseline of mutual respect and understanding is a great way to build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship. When you have a respectful relationship, you have a relationship where both you and your partner feel valued and accepted. That's why we talked to therapists and relationship experts to find out the best ways for you to show your partner that you respect them.
Showing Your Partner Respect
- Talk openly and honestly with your partner.
- Listen to your partner and empathize with them.
- Value your partner's feelings and needs.
- Acknowledge your partner's contributions to your life.
- Support your partner's interests even if you don't share them.
- Give your partner space to have their own life.
- Compromise and honor your partner's boundaries.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhat should I do if there's no respect in my relationship?Sarah Schewitz, PsyDSarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.
Licensed PsychologistSit the other person down and have an honest conversation with them. Let them know what's bothering you right away you don't build any resentment for them.
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If you feel the need to hide something from your partner, it more than likely means it's because you know it would upset or hurt them. Reconsider your actions and be honest, even when it's tough.Thanks
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- ↑ Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C. Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
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About This Article
Respecting your partner is key to a happy, long-term relationship. To respect your partner more, work on viewing your relationship as a team effort. For instance, consult your partner when you make big decisions, like making a big purchase or picking a vacation spot. If you don’t agree on something, listen to your partner’s opinion and discuss the situation respectfully rather than insisting on doing things your way. You won’t always agree on everything, and respecting your partner means making compromises for the sake of the relationship. If you want to respect your partner, you should also be considerate of what they have to say. Take the time to put your phone away and fully listen when they tell you something, especially if it’s something important. You should also respect their boundaries, even if you don’t agree with them. For instance, if your partner is really sensitive about a certain topic, don’t bring it up even if you don’t think its a big deal. Above all, be honest with your partner since healthy, respectful relationships are built on transparency. To learn how to avoid fighting with your partner, read on!
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