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Relationships beginning with a special spark are so much fun, but sometimes that spark doesn’t last. Have you noticed a change in the way you text with the person you’re dating? The main thing to remember is that if your crush, date, girlfriend, boyfriend, or significant other is actually losing interest in you, it’s not your fault. Relationships can end because the two parties involved just aren’t as compatible as they felt they were in the beginning, and that’s okay. One way or another, we’ll show you how to tell if someone is losing interest over text—just remember to look at your situation as objectively as you can, and see if the signs match up!
Signs Someone Is Losing Interest Over Text
- They don’t text you as much as they used to.
- They consistently take a long time to reply to you.
- Their replies are short and vague.
- They don’t ask questions, and they don't try to keep the conversation going.
- They don’t text compliments or sweet messages to you anymore.
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QuestionHow can I get her attention and interest?Elvina Lui, MFTElvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
Marriage & Family TherapistBuild the relationship from a deeper place. Physical attraction is an important part of the picture, but it's also important to make sure that you're bonded in other meaningful ways. Working toward a common dream together (like buying a house or starting a family) is a great way to keep her connected and invested in the relationship.
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