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Striking up a conversation with someone IRL is tough enough—but figuring out what to say on Instagram might be even harder. If you stumble across someone that seems super cool but you just can’t figure out what to say, you’re not alone! Fortunately, there are a lot of different ways you can open up a dialogue with a girl.

Here are 11 foolproof ways to start a conversation with a girl you like on Instagram.

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Reply to her story.

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  1. If she posts something interesting, try sending a DM in response. You can ask her where her food’s from (if she posts a food pic), ask about her vacation (in response to a beach picture), or even give her a compliment (if she posts a cute selfie). For example:
    • “That sandwich looks so good. Is that the new place on Hawthorne?”
    • “Whoa, look at those views! Is this near Venice Beach?”
    • Follow the girl on Instagram before you DM her. This can make her more likely to look at your message and respond.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 1050 wikiHow readers, and 54% of them agreed that it’s important to ​​follow your crush on social media before you slide into their DMs. [Take Poll]
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Talk about something from her page.

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  1. If you find something interesting or a hobby that you two have in common, open up with that.[4] Try not to scroll too far down, though, as bringing up a post that’s 2 years old can be a little creepy. Try saying something like:[5]
    • “Whoa, is that the new Nikon camera in your last post? I’ve been wanting to try that one out.”
    • “I didn’t know that you were a surfer! How long have you been riding the waves?”
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Pick up an in-person conversation.

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Try a cheesy pickup line.

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Give her your number.

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Post something you know she’ll respond to.

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  1. If you know a few things about this girl (what her hobbies are, what she likes to do, where she likes to eat), try posting a pic on your story to see if she responds. If she does, you can take the conversation from there.[10]
    • For example, if she’s super into the outdoors, post a cool pic of you hiking or biking.
    • Or, if she’s a foodie, post a picture of you trying a new restaurant in town.
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    How many times should I talk to someone online before meeting them?
    Cher Gopman
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    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
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    I'd suggest that you have at least 5 conversations online before meeting up with someone. The exception might be if you meet on Tinder or Bumble and there's a crazy immediate connection where the two of you share some mutual interest, but in general, you want to chat a few times before meeting up.
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    How can I build a connection with someone over Instagram?
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    Cher Gopman
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    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
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    Try to find a mutual interest that both of you share and lean into that. It's a lot easier to connect with someone if you have something in common that gets both of you excited.
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    How do you start a conversation with a non-binary person on Instagram?
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    Talk to them as you would do with anyone else, except don't use gendered pronouns or words. Just talk about stuff you like, and listen to them talk about that stuff back. It's that simple.
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Warnings

  • Never send an inappropriate or sexual photo without asking first.
  • Remember that harassing her can be considered cyberbullying and may result in a report being filed against you.
  • Be careful what you post on Instagram. Inappropriate content or offensive comments can lead to consequences like reprimands or account bans. Be mindful of your content and language on the platform.
  • If you want to keep things smooth with her, it might be best to avoid asking her to post revealing pictures. After all, you wouldn’t want to be blocked!
  • When trying to flirt with her online, remember to be mindful of her relationship status and how she feels about you to avoid being blocked.
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This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post. This article has been viewed 985,470 times.
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