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When you think of romantic attraction, you might think of romantic comedies or fairy tales where someone is swept off of their feet by a charming and captivating heartthrob. And yes, that's romance—but so are a lot of other things. The truth is that romantic attraction is experienced and expressed differently by everyone. Read on to gain a better understanding of romantic attraction, how it differs from other types of attraction, and how it relates to the big picture of what you're looking for in a relationship and a partner.
Things You Should Know
- Romantic attraction is an emotional urge to connect with someone and ultimately fall in love with them.
- When you're romantically attracted to someone, you see them as your ideal partner. They excite you and energize you and you can't stop thinking about them.
- You're most likely to become romantically attracted to someone if the two of you have a lot in common and they have personality traits you prefer in a partner.
Steps
Community Q&A
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QuestionHow do you respond if the other person rejects you?Community AnswerYou're not expected to respond at all. They rejected you. Their loss. Just breathe, and physically and mentally get them out of your world. (If you feel the need to respond, you could keep it classy by saying something like "I wish you well.")
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QuestionHow do you make your tongue kiss sexy?ButterflyTop AnswererTilt your head to the side. Start with a closed mouth (and before the kiss, please use a mouth-freshener). Then when you (and the other person) are ready, open your mouth just a tiny bit, and put your tongue in. Judging by the other person’s reaction whether to continue, if they seem uncomfortable, stop. If they seem to like it, continue, but not too aggressively. Also use your hands: you can’t have your arms dangling at your side. And finally, don’t forget to breathe!
Tips
References
- ↑ https://www.42ndstreet.org.uk/lgbtq-resources/attraction-sexuality/aromantic-awareness/
- ↑ https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00862/full
- ↑ https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00862/full
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/marriage-relationships/brain-on-love
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://www.southuniversity.edu/news-and-blogs/2016/08/the-psychology-behind-love-and-romance-70700
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/love-brain
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8074860/
- ↑ https://www.southuniversity.edu/news-and-blogs/2016/08/the-psychology-behind-love-and-romance-70700
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-mysteries-love/201709/11-predictors-romantic-attraction
- ↑ https://www.42ndstreet.org.uk/lgbtq-resources/attraction-sexuality/types-of-attraction/
- ↑ https://lgbtq.unc.edu/resources/exploring-identities/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation/
- ↑ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35380311/